When you approach a beautiful woman or even think about it, do you tremble with fear and maybe think: “What if she rejects me? If this is at all familiar to you, the number one most important 
asset here is CONFIDENCE. Since we already covered confidence, in this chapter we’ll focus on how to use your confidence to approach any woman with some specific strategies. If you are having any challenges with confidence make sure you revisit or explore the Triad Of Unbreakable Confidence.
It’s important to know what she’s thinking about the guys who approach her. Here’s a typical mindset of a high quality woman:
“Ok he’s looking well dressed and I feel a slight attraction, but can he speak, carry a conversation, does he have a spine, is he confident enough to approach me and not be nervous or is he another needy wimp who will do anything for me and I’ll get bored of quickly?”
“Or is he just another player douche bag who just wants to get in my pants?”
With this in mind let’s talk about some approach strategies in addition to integrating the 10 attraction factors so you can approach any girl.
How To Read Signs That She’s Interested & Single
Have you ever met someone and just couldn’t get a good read on her. So how do you know when a woman is single or interested in you? There are several ways a woman will drop hints that she’s interested and by reading her body language, you’ll gain insight, which will tell you how to proceed. Here are some signs to look for:
Body Language
Ok she doesn’t have a ring, but what is happening with her body language? The second most obvious sign she’s single will be her eye contact and other subtle cues like twirling her hair and touching other men ever so casually. Make sure you look for these clues:
- She shows signs that she likes you. Any kind of proximity is an invitation to approach, woman who flips her hair, stares right at you. For example, she opens her shoulders and feet and she makes eye contact with you.
If she looks right at you then breaks eye contact and shortly thereafter looks back at you this is a telltale sign she is flirting. Be careful though, staring at a woman can make her feel uncomfortable and even border on creepiness. If she gives you zero eye contact or you approach and she just looks away to the side, unless she’s in deep thought about a question you asked, she ain’t interested brother, move on!
- Get Compliance – To test this out try the “ping test”. Touch her on her arm, shoulders or neck and see if she touches you right back. If she does, she’s most likely interested. One more option here is to playfully throw your arm around her. You’ll know if she’s accepting or uncomfortable, which will give you your answer. If she’s uncomfortable don’t give up yet; she just might not be ready.
Compliance is one of the best ways to find out if a girl likes you simply because it gives you instant feedback. Try the ping test or just ask her to do something for you like hold your drink or chop some vegetables if you are at a dinner party. If she complies you are making her jump through your hoops and building attraction. This will do wonders for getting that initial spark, but if you want some more advanced strategies and confidence builders check out the Five Step Dating Free Video Course HERE.
Best of luck,
Chad Nellis – Founder Five Step Dating
