For men trying to meet women, one of the most difficult tasks is to make
the right introduction without coming across as creepy, needy, or inattentive. It is a seemingly fine line that must be balanced, but the truth is that the more you try to address each contingency, the worse you will often appear. So, in order to meet a woman in the right way you will need to incorporate a few simple techniques into a relaxed appearance so that you give off the right signals.
Timing is Everything
When you meet a woman is arguably the most important aspect in starting a conversation. This means that you need to time your introduction so that it occurs at a moment and place where she feels comfortable. For example, meeting a woman in the park in the middle of the day is far less creepy and uncomfortable than in the same park in the middle of the night.
In essence, you will want to time your introduction and conversation to a place where she will feel comfortable. So, if your timing is off when you meet her, keep your distance, be polite and keep the conversation to a minimum and let her take the initiative if she so desires.
Body Language
It may seem on the surface that men know nothing about communication, but most men are adept at reading body language. Look for indications of being closed off, such as crossed arms, turning away from you, a hunched posture, and so forth. Her body language will tell you if she is open to talking to you or not. Do not try to force it, simply read her body language and let that be your guide.
Your First Words Don’t Matter
Don’t waste time thinking up a great opening line because she’s not going to remember it unless it’s really, really bad. Instead, simply look to strike up a conversation and maintain it. Don’t think ahead, don’t make plans, just relax and go with the flow of the conversation itself. A good rule of thumb is that your conversation starter might be something that both of you can see and relate such as what she’s reading, watching, or perhaps wearing, but be a little careful when going there.
From there, just keep the conversation going as long as you can. Once you get over the initial hurdle of talking with her, it’s all downhill after that and hopefully in a good way.
Have a Bail-Out Line
If things are not going well, it’s better to bail out early than go down in flames. So, say that it was nice meeting her, but you have to run. It’s simple, effective, and should be used when her body language is telling you to go.
Build the Conversation with Flirting and Banter
Here, you have to go with what makes you feel comfortable. Some will dive right into the suggestive flirting while others are more comfortable with simple banter. You need to go with what makes you and her feel comfortable.
However, if you screw up, apologize. It’s usually obvious when you go too far, so be a man and apologize when it happens. If the chemistry is real, then a quick apology will work. Otherwise, you are on your way when it comes to meeting and talking to women.