This is a bit of a delicate subject, but there is much you can learn about life and relationships through a quick down and dirty study of beautiful selfish women. The irony here is that everybody wants to 
be beautiful, but when your beauty comes primarily from external beauty (man or woman) it creates another problem, which is the tendency towards selfishness. If you experience a lot of selfish women who are beautiful, chances are you may react negatively thinking: “She’s just a bitch,” or “She’s got a stick up her butt,” but there’s a lot more behind that constipated look.
Ok before you start tripping and say not all beautiful women are selfish, this article isn’t about the exceptions, its about the selfish ones.
I think I’m pretty qualified to talk on this subject as I’ve dated my fair share of beautiful women and I have to say the majority were indeed selfish. I’m talking about a girl who never volunteered to drive the car (Ever), the girl who wanted me to pay for everything (All The Time), the girl who couldn’t give me a massage because she was just too tired (Every time I Asked).
Fortunately, I’ve had some great relationships with women who bend over backwards to give, like throwing a surprise B-day party (who does that?), volunteering to help me with my business or treating me with a completely planned out vacation without ever asking. Interestingly enough these were never the externally raving beauties, their beauty came mostly from the inside which leads to a couple important questions: why the drastic difference and why selfish in the first place?
The reason these gals (and yes it happens to guys too) become selfish is actually pretty simple, since beautiful people get more attention than others, they have to do less to get more. Essentially, over time they become conditioned to get what they want without doing much work and eventually believe that they deserve they should get their way just because they’re beautiful, which of course leads to a very selfish path.
But if you look a little deeper below the surface chances are she’s really not that happy. For instance, at night there’s a good chance she has a lot of nightmares, doesn’t sleep very well and has a lot of inner conflict (BTW all my selfish girlfriends had a lot of nightmares). The reason why selfish people have a lot of inner conflict is because the human species was not designed to take more than it gives. When you take more than you give, internally you begin feel agitated, irritable and depressed as subconsciously you know you suffer from selfish tendencies while your human design is built to contribute just as much if not more than you take.
On the flip side, if we look at people who give a lot of themselves unconditionally, they have a connection to a much more stable form of confidence, an inner power connected to infinite intelligence, creativity, wisdom and courage because they are living for the greater good of the world instead of just for themselves. Tony Robbins, love or hate him, is a great example of this. He has accumulated a net worth of over 1/2 billion dollars by simply giving as much of himself as he can.
Of course this unconditional aspect is also a big big part of the happiness equation since most people give with conditions and are primaily concerned with “what’s in it for me?” And when it comes to women, the unconditional givers are typically not raving beauties, yet have the most kind and generous hearts. (Think Mother Theresa…not exactly a model right!).
This connection to infinite power can happen to anybody, but for the most part, it takes a major breaking down and reconditioning of false beliefs revolving around ego, selfishness and the constant need to be better than everyone else.
Sadly, since most beautiful women have been conditioned to believe they don’t have to do much to get what they want, they never end up doing the real deep work of giving themselves unconditionally to a cause greater than themselves nor to another person for that matter and as a result become selfish, insecure and deeply conflicted.
Of course, this can happen to men, but more often than not, women fall into this trap. Want proof? Just take a look online at Facebook or Instagram where beautiful women can throw up a shot in a bikini and get a couple hundred if not a couple hundred thousand likes, while a man does the same and gets fraction of the attention. Or how about the fact that a man has to pursue a woman and women rarely if ever do any of the pursuing. This creates conditioning of entitlement and exacerbates the selfish tendencies.
Bottom line here is that selfish people are not very happy… we all remember the Grinch. If for any reason this article triggers upsetting feelings, please don’t blame me. There’s a good chance, like a glass of water with some sediment at the bottom, I am merely the spoon stirring the sediment that already existed, making the ability to see clearly, very difficult.
In the end it takes the courage to look within and self reflect on how we show up in the world. And when it comes time to look for a girlfriend you’ll need to be honest and ask yourself, “Is she just looking to get a lot of likes on Instagram and Facebook so she can feel good about herrself? Is she here just to take regardless of making a contribution to you or others? Or is she here to give love and contribute something amazing that inspires or changes someone else’s life (hopefully yours) for the better ?
Obviously the latter feels a lot better and you’ll most likely have a longer lasting and loving relationship because of it. For more tips on navigating the waters of relationships and landing a really great girlfriend, check out the best selling book “How To Get A Girlfriend – The Ultimate Guide” Here.
