The online dating profile is huge game changer between those who get dates and those who stay home alone. After studying 
hundreds upon hundreds of dating profiles and their results or lack thereof, conclusive evidence shows that most people don’t say much about themselves and the ones that do focus on the wrong things and shoot themselves in the foot killing their chances before the game has even started.
Because most people have no idea what they are doing here, its a massive opportunity for those that do to stick out and get most of the dates. While most men don’t need an essay, they do look at the profile for clues about what life would be like with a particular female. And women almost always look to the profile to qualify a man. Take a few extra minutes here and you’ll separate yourself from 90% of the herd. In my best selling Amazon companion books Online Dating for Women & Online Dating for Men I point out the biggest profile blunders which kill your chances as follows:
Profile Blunders
“I’m a transplant from Virginia loving Southern Cali. I love sunsets, hiking, biking, going out to dinner, vacations, steak and good wine.”
Sound familiar? Of course this is the typical online profile, but what does it say about a person? It says almost nothing about the uniqueness of a human being and doesn’t answer “why”!
If you’re profile is basically a list of adjectives, don’t worry, you’re not alone, most people make this mistake. But here’s the good news, since 90% of the online dating profiles are horribly written, if you take a little time and really implement this Quick Tip you’ll stick out like an all-star and attract way more attention!
Ok since this is really important lets go over some of the most common mistakes in profiles. Take a note if you may have blown any of these, laugh at yourself and then commit to making some changes:
- Don’t just ramble off a list of character traits you think describe you. For example, if you are sexy and funny don’t tell him, show him with your words.
- Ladies, don’t start off with a list of demands like: “Real men only please,” “I’m a package deal,” “No hookups” or “No players.” This says: hey guys I’ve been tainted from my past, I got a lot of luggage or you have to like my kids even though you’ve never met them. Needless to say, this stuff turns guys off quick and it can be communicated in other places like your pictures without ever saying a word.
- Don’t apologize for yourself and say stuff like: “I’m complicated and sometimes I don’t understand myself.”
- Don’t sell yourself short or make excuses with statements like: “Here goes nothing” or “I’m new to this, forgive me.”
- Don’t look desperate or in a hurry with statements like: “My time clock is ticking or “I just need a good man.”
- Ladies don’t ever call yourself a princess! To guys this means: She’s entitled, can’t stand on her own two feet, needs a daddy and she’s definitely high maintenance.
- Don’t point out what they might not like with statements like: “I’ve never been in a long term relationship.”
- Don’t talk about how uncomfortable you are doing this. It only makes you look weak. Famous blunder: “I’m not good at this online dating thing”
- Never indicate you need a man with a statement like: All I need is a good man. This makes you look needy. Instead say: I’m really enjoying my life right now and it would be great to have someone special enjoy it with me.
- Don’t be overconfident and arrogant with the “I’m perfect and I have no problems” vibe, as this can intimidate a person into thinking they have no shot at all.
- Be careful about how you brag. Nobody likes arrogance and on the flip side nobody likes someone who has low self-esteem and constantly puts themselves down.
Instead of bragging about your skills or accomplishments directly, use someone else’s opinion. For example, instead of, “I have great massage hands” say: “I’ve been told I have sweet healing hands that melt tension and relax the mind.”
Use humor (possibly self-deprecating) or focus on unique, cute or funny things. For example: Instead of “I have a PhD from Harvard” say: “My mom really cracked the whip as a kid and thank god she did, as I somehow ended up graduating Suma Cum Lade at Harvard. Lastly, don’t brag about something you can’t back up, it will come back to haunt you!
These are obviously just a few examples and for most its the end of the line for how much they want to invest in themselves, but if you’d really like to nail your profile and turn your dating results around 5 fold, you can spend $3 on Amazon and grab a treasure trove of knowledge based on real success in the books below.
Click Here for: Online Dating for Women – The Quick Notes (With Game Changer Quick Tips)
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