When it comes to writing an online profile, most people are extremely lazy and take about 2 minutes and put as little effort in as possible. Of course 
just like anything else in life, if you don’t take the time to get it right your results will be about the same as your efforts… shitty! A well written profile is a “Massive Opportunity” To stand out among the herd and get lots of dates. Unlike most men, women actually look at the profile, and if you simply take 15 minutes and learn the ropes, you’ll be drawing women in like a magnet as you’ll be perceived as a high value catch.
Profile Blunders
First, lets take a look at some common blunders.
“I’m a transplant from Virginia loving Southern Cali. I love sunsets, hiking, biking, going out to dinner, vacations, steak and good wine.”
Sound familiar? Of course this is the typical online profile, but what does it say about a person? It says almost nothing about the uniqueness of a human being and doesn’t answer “why”!
If you’re profile is basically a list of adjectives, don’t worry, you’re not alone, most people make this mistake. But here’s the good news, since 90% of the online dating profiles are horribly written, if you take a little time and really implement this Quick Tip you’ll stick out like an all-star!
BIG TIP =
Ok since this is really important lets go over some of the most common mistakes in profiles. Take a note if you may have blown any of these, laugh at yourself and then commit to making some changes:
- Don’t just ramble off a list of character traits you think describe you. For example, if you are cocky and funny don’t tell her; show her with your words.
- Don’t apologize for yourself and say stuff like: “I’m complicated and sometimes I don’t understand myself.”
- Don’t sell yourself short with statements like: “Here goes nothing”.
- Don’t point out what they might not like with statements like: “I’ve never been in a long term relationship.”
- Don’t make excuses for yourself so someone will like or admire you. Most common blunder here is: “I’m new to this, forgive me.”
- Don’t put the opposite sex down or play high and mighty unless it’s funny. For example: “most women are crazy, sane women only please.”
- Don’t talk about how uncomfortable you are doing this. It only makes you look weak. Famous blunder: “I’m not good at this online dating thing”
- Don’t say I’m your guy or I’m the kind of guy you’d like. This is looking for approval, makes you look needy and lacks confidence.
- Never indicate you need a woman with a statement like: All I need is a good woman. This makes you look needy. Instead say: I’m really enjoying my life right now and it would be great to have someone special enjoy it with me.
- Don’t be overconfident and arrogant with the “I’m perfect and I have no problems” vibe, as this can intimidate someone into thinking they have no shot at all.
- Be careful about how you brag. Nobody likes arrogance and on the flip side nobody likes someone who has low self-esteem and constantly puts themselves down.
Instead of bragging about your skills or accomplishments directly, use someone else’s opinion. For example, instead of, “I have great massage hands” say: “I’ve been told I have sweet healing hands that melt tension and warm hearts.”
Use humor (possibly self-deprecating) or focus on unique, cute or funny things. For example: Instead of “I have a PhD from Harvard” say: “My mom really cracked the whip as a kid and thank god she did, as I somehow ended up graduating Suma Cum Lade at Harvard. Lastly, don’t brag about something you can’t back up it will come back to haunt you!
Profile All-Stars
Instead of making these blunders, lets see how you can build your profile like an All-Star and get them to respond in a hurry.
Remember: Unfortunately, due to the unavoidable human tendency for negative bias, when someone looks at your profile, they’ll most likely be looking to disqualify you. So if you have any of the above profile blunders they will most likely not take you seriously or just ignore you.
Instead, be different! Most importantly, your profile should convey: I’m busy, my life is awesome, getting me is your goal and I’m a challenge.
What to Write
Most people live boring lives without adventure and don’t even know interesting people, so it shouldn’t be too difficult to stand out here. You’ll need to describe your best character traits, passions and values, but to separate yourself from 90% of the other people its time to step it up and use the 6 Elements of A Magnetic Profile.
6 Elements of A Magnetic Profile
There are really only 6 elements you need in your profile to make it bullet proof and double if not triple your attraction rate. Stay tuned as our next blog post we’ll dive into the 6 elements. To find out more dating profile examples for men check out our Amazon Best Seller Online Dating for Men – The Quick Notes (With Game Changer Quick Tips).
