Considering throwing your hat into the internet dating ring? The first thing to understand about internet dating is that there is no body language, which represents
roughly 90% of communication, so it’s really easy to blow it here and most people do.
To demonstrate how guys really blow their communication, I opened an online dating profile on Match.com… not quite like you’d imagine though. I actually portrayed myself as your girl next door, yes a woman (Ok this is super ninja insider dating stuff so don’t tell anyone at Match or you’ll blow it for us all). When the responses came in it was absolutely mind-boggling how lame the messages were, no wonder women don’t respond to a majority of these guys.
Here’s a quick sample of their subject lines:
- Hi
- Hello
- Hi beautiful
- Hey there hottie
- I can give you what you want
- I think you hot (can you spell dude?)
And their messages were just as bad, here are some samples:
- I’m brand new to this online dating thing, so don’t be too hard on me. You’re very attractive and I’d love to take you out for a drink sometime. What do you think?
- Hello there beautiful, I think you have great pictures and probably most guys trying to knock down your door, so I won’t waste your time. Maybe we can go out for dinner next week. Let me know if your interested
- Hi my name is Dave and I run a law firm in Downtown SanDiego. I think you are absolutely gorgeous and I’d love to take you out on a night on the town. Let me know if you’re interested.
- Well here goes nothing, I saw your profile and I think you are attractive, I also noticed we have a lot in common, check my profile out and let me know if you’re interested.
- Ok if you don’t have any education in this area, these messages may not seem so horrible, but here’s the deal…
What’s happening here is that for the most part, men are pursuing women, so the pressure is on the guys to send the first email. Since most first emails are coming from men, each woman is getting between 10-100 men emailing them every day (depending on how hot she is).
Now if you got that much email on top of your regular email would you read it all? Probably not, so guess what, most men write the same stupid, generic, boring emails, which get, yes… DELETED before they’re even read.
Ok I need to make a confession and be totally honest here. When I first started out I was one of those guys, yep, I was clueless, I was the guy who said: “Hi” in the subject line and “I’m new to this online thing go easy on me” in my message and guess what I got?
That’s right, nothing but scraps! But I didn’t give up and I took some time to study several online dating coaches and… I got a very different result. instead of getting a 5% response rate I was now getting around a 60% percent response rate. Awesome right?
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